Ah, blogging fears, bookish fears, I assume we all have them? I mean, I do anyway. And a lot of people I talk to do. So if you don’t, you just leave all your secrets in the comment section, please and thank you. Over the years, I have realized that a lot of these aren’t really accurate, but sometimes it’s hard to tell the illogical part of your mind that, I suppose. And, if you want to think of it in a nice way, fears usually just mean you care about what you do, and that’s always a plus!
This one is kind of easy to get over… but it’s still always in the back of my head. When I first started blogging, for a solid 5 months or so, I didn’t have any visitors or comments. Don’t get me wrong, it was on me, because I was too scared to reach out. I guess I assumed people would have some kind of magical dreams about my blog and visit it? But once I started visiting other blogs, people came on over. Still, there’s that tiny voice that tells you that one day, you’ll fade into complete obscurity (and I mean, I probably will? Though I assume I will have some kind of moderately conscious effort to step away.)
Hopefully I never get this stabby with blogging?
Obviously we all have some unpopular opinions from time to time. Whether it be your thoughts on a book, or on a more serious topic, we’ve all been in the position of not agreeing with the community at large. But sometimes, you might want to speak about these things. And it’s scary! We’ve certainly all seen someone be absolutely skewered on social media for an unpopular opinion, and no one wants that fate. But I think that as long as your opinion doesn’t involve limiting others’ voices or being hateful to anyone/ any group, you should be able to say what you want to say. Hell, you can always say what you want to say, but ramifications are real.
Ah, this is similar to the last one. Because even when you find your people, it’s easy to worry that they’ll… go away? Just me? Anyway. It’s just like meeting people anywhere else- you’ll find people you love, people you definitely like, and people who you might secretly want to get eaten by mountain lions or something. In my experience in this community, the mountain lion victims are few and far between, thank goodness.
And sure, there will be people who come and go, people who you like but don’t necessarily have a deep meaningful relationship with, and that’s just fine! You’ll definitely find your people if you haven’t yet!
Ugh, the negative review is such a tricky beast, friends. I remember the first negative review I wrote. I felt so bad because what if the author read it, or the publisher, or the editor’s 3rd uncle? But here’s my thing: I think all authors know that someone won’t like their book. And as long as you’re respectful, it’s fine. Don’t be “that guy” who tags an author on Twitter or whatever, but if an author seeks out reviews and sees yours? You’re just writing a review. It’s part of the whole process.
Here’s the deal: You may not get Most Coveted ARC (seriously, I still don’t know how to do that), but I assure you that someone, somewhere wants you to read and review their book. I had been blogging about a month, and as I said earlier, had zero comments or views. I was contacted by an author who wanted me to read their book, even though I was new- turns out, so was she! Then there’s the Read Now books on Netgalley and Edelweiss, which you can read and review to show you’re reliable and such. It’ll all come in time. But sometimes I don’t even know how people get approved for stuff, and I am pretty sure that it’s often “I like that blogger’s Twitter picture” or something equally random. So don’t stress. I did, and well, why bother?
Um, this is the most real of the fears, because I had it tonight. I was typing this up, and needed one more pink text graphic, and couldn’t think of a damn thing to say. Except… this is a legit fear! It’s one I have all the time. Hell, if I hadn’t thought this idea up while trying to take a nap, you’d not be reading this because coming up with ideas is hard. I was kind of wondering if I could hire someone, someone who is super creative but maybe has no desire to write their own posts? And they could just come up with ideas for me and I could transform them into posts. It sounds like a win to me.
In seriousness, I have no idea how to combat this particular fear, unless your brain is naturally equipped to come up with awesome ideas all the time. I generally spend a few hours looking around my room, especially at shelves of books, hoping that something will pop into my head. This works approximately 10% of the time. Most ideas come when I am trying to sleep and cannot. So develop a pretty hefty case of insomnia, and you’re golden!
I worry about this all the time, and it’s probably ridiculous. I will read a review that someone has done, and think “oh no, I said similar things in mine!”. Well, no shit, Sherlock. We’re both writing reviews of the same book. Obviously my opinions will probably end up being similar to someone’s. Of course, then I worry that someone else will have written a similar discussion post too, or whatever. The cycle never ends.
-Hopefully never me.
Sorry, this one is probably going to happen. Because you likely have all the books.